This Sunday I attended a service at church (KOI INTERNATIONAL) and I must say that Pastor Mike had a few interesting points about dating that I definitely have to share.
Let’s start with the basics…
What is dating?
Dating is the process of getting to know one another. The process in which u find out if the two of you are compatible or not, the process by which you choose whether to take the next step and create a relationship with the other person. That is what dating is.
Now I am pretty sure that not all are familiar or understand the concept but that is what it is. You can not date someone for years, if its been years, your in a relationship honey.
Now as youth I feel we are pressured to be in a relationship, this then causes people to skip the entire process of dating, the entire process of getting to know one another and figuring out if ur the best possible fit.
Now Pastor Mike made it quite clear with 10 key points on what to ask yourself when it comes to dating or to picking a suitable partner.
I will elaborate on these points in my own understanding of what he said and would also like to hear what each one of you think. let me just tell yall now that this is gonna be a long post … 😊
1. Do I even like me?
Whoa … start off with a killer. Do I even like myself. Like how do you expect someone to like you or love you, if you don’t like/love yourself.
2. Is there physical attraction?
Do you think your man/gurl is hot, gorgeous, sexy or to die for. Lol okay that last one is a bit dramatic but really ask yourself is he/she? Your partner has to be everything that you could ever want. This is needed cause when ur tempted by lets say a person that u find physically attractive and ur person ain’t, you won’t want to dip ur toes in that pool would you and wreck what you have.
3. Do they love Jesus?
Are they a Christian, do they follow a Christian lifestyle. If not then ur most likely to also follow the same lifestyle they live. When your in a relationship you and your partner are a team. Thus meaning you will do a lot of activities together. If you are not on the same page then there will be conflict.
4. Are we compatible?
Do yall really get along or are yall just playing for the sake of being in a relationship. Do you have the same spiritual, social and political views. To avoid unnecessary conflict it is in your best interest to somewhat like the same things.
5. Do you know their past?
Dig! Dig! Dig! into their past. Not behind their backs though, ask them everything you want to know: How many boyfriends/girlfriends have you had, Are your parents married/divorced, Where did you grow up, how many siblings do u have, etc. By asking such questions you will be able to see if there is a pattern or whether he/she is a chance worth taking
6. Does my pastor know him?
If he/she doesn’t want to meet your pastor, kick that fool to the curb. People avoid meeting the parents or pastor in this case cause it shows that it is a commitment to the relationship. That this is actually a BIG DEAL. They will either run or stay. You want someone that is excited to meet your Pastor or Parents. Biological Parents and The spiritual ones.
7. Do you want children?
This is a question that needs to be asked. Not to scare your partner but to know what your future holds. If you want kids and they don’t, you don’t want to force someone into something that they didn’t want in the first place. Yes, people can change their minds but its something worth knowing
8. Do you have a job?
Ain’t nobody got time to be supporting someone else. You have to have a job. I am not even gonna elaborate on this one cause I agree whether people are against it or not. Get a job!
9. Either quit or keep going?
By now if you have answered more than 2 questions negatively, I suggest u quit. Just like your drivers, you need 80% to pass this one.
10. No free tasting!
Now I hope yall get why I found these tips so interesting and why I felt the need to share them with all of you. Insanity is described as doing the same thing and awaiting a different outcome. Why don’t yall try something new and see what outcome your going to get. It will surely be something different.
I hope you enjoyed this post and do let me know what you think.
See yall in my next one